Some Good Advice

For Young Men On There Way Up

  • You don’t have to keep every secret, just the important ones.
  • Place-dropping is worse than-name dropping.
  • Appreciate your parents. When they die, you become an orphan.
  • It’s okay to forgive, as long as you don’t forget.
  • Never make a scene after the age of 22. This also applies when you’re drinking.
  • If you wear cologne, no one should smell it from five feet away or five minutes after you’ve left.
  • When giving a toast, short and sweet is always best.
  • Never take an ex back. She tried to do better and is settling with you.
  • Suck it up every now and then, especially for your family.
  • Don’t stare.
  • Read more. It allows you to borrow someone else’s brain.
  • Stand up to bullies. You’ll only have to do it once.
  • Admit it when you’re wrong, and forgive yourself for your mistakes.
  • If you offer to help, don’t quit until the job is done.
  • Know at least one good joke.
  • When you marry someone, remember you marry their entire family.
  • If you don’t understand, ask before it’s too late.
  • Yes, of course you have to buy her dinner.
  • Never ask the same question twice.
  • Be kind. Life is hard enough as it is.
  • Know your way around a kitchen.
  • Set Goals. Write them down.
  • Stop talking about where you went to college.
  • Never park in front of a bar.
  • Play competitive sports for as long as you can.
  • Never date an ex of your friend.
  • If riding the bus doesn’t incentivize you to improve your station in life, nothing will.
  • When the bartender asks, you should already know what you want to drink.
  • If you perspire, wear an undershirt.
  • People get tired of you being the funny, drunk guy.
  • When in doubt, always kiss the girl.
  • Tip more than you should.
  • Always buy good shoes, tires, and sheets.
  • Put your smartphone away. You probably use it too often and at the wrong moments.
  • Eating out alone can be magnificent. Find a place where you can sit at the bar.
  • Value a handful of truly close friends over a hundred acquaintances.
  • No selfies. Aspire to experience photo-worthy moments in the company of a wonderful companion.
  • Don’t split a check.
  • When a bartender buys you a round, tip double.
  • Do not use an electric razor.
  • One girlfriend at a time is probably enough.
  • Buy expensive sunglasses.
  • You may only request one song from the DJ.
  • Remember: You die twice, once when you stop breathing, and again when somebody mentions your name for the last time.
  • Staying angry is a waste of energy.
  • Revenge can be a good way of getting over anger.
  • Always bring a bottle of something to the party.
  • Avoid that “last” drink. You’ve probably had enough.
  • Don’t use the word “closure” or ever expect it in real life.
  • Don’t linger in the doorway, in or out.
  • Date women outside your social set. You’ll be surprised.
  • You cannot have a love affair with whiskey because whiskey will never love you back.
  • No-one cares if you are offended, so stop it.
  • Hookers aren’t cool, but remember, the free ones are a lot more expensive.
  • Don’t ever say, “it is what it is.”
  • Act like you’ve been there before.
  • Don’t gamble any amount of money that will piss you off if you lose.

Smoking Is Bad And Will Kill You

My mother smoked, my father smoked and my grandmother, who lived with us in her final years, smoked one cigarette right after another.

Growing up I used to hate riding in the car with them because it smelled really bad. I have to admit that I actually tried it once, because of peer pressure, but the warm smoke tasted like a mouth full of crap to me. That was the first and last time a cigarette ever touched my lips.

Cigarette smoke really stinks and is bad for you. I have found that for some reason if you are not a smoker, the smoke trail from somebody nearby will always blow in your direction. It must be a cruel law of nature or something.

At least now you can enjoy eating out and not having a smoker sitting right next to you, or anywhere in the restaurant. Now the ones that just have to light-up stand near the door so their smoke can drift into the restaurant when somebody comes or goes. Consequently, we never sit near the door.

I know it is not good to generalize, but for the most part smokers tend to be rude. This is not to say they are really bad people, it is just that they are addicted to nicotine and really need a drag on their cancer sticks, so that takes precedence.

Years ago we used to live about a twenty-minute drive from Disneyland. It was interesting to watch people who had just been on the “It’s A Small World” ride as they exited over the bridge. As smokers walked over the bridge they were frantic to get a cigarette into their lips and quickly lit so they could take a drag. Pathetic! I think the song below portrays the situation pretty well.

At one company I worked at while moving up the ladder, I became close friends with a guy name Walter. He was a hard worker and fun to be around, but he had cigarette addiction really bad. I tried to get him to stop, but he just couldn’t do it. We lost contact for several years, going our separate ways, and finally reconnected about ten years later. One of the first things out of Walter’s mouth was, “Gary, you aren’t going to believe this, but I finally quite smoking about six months ago.” He went on to say how he was getting in shape with daily exercise and really enjoying life. I had a consulting company at the time and we started talking about working together again.

A few weeks passed and Walter started complaining about having a sore throat that just wouldn’t go away. He finally went to the doctor and was told he had cancer of the larynx. They told him they would try to remove just one vocal cord and should be able to teach him how to talk again. To make a long story short, they had to take his whole voice box.

Walter and I were having lunch one day after his recuperation and I said, “Hey Walter, when you were at the class learning how to use your Electronic Larynx, about how many of the people in the class were smokers?” Walter quickly put the device to his throat and answered, “ I’d say approximately 100 percent.”

Things seemed to be going well for Walter again, but he could no longer do what he did best, selling. You see, Walter was one of the best salesmen I have ever known. He lived very well and drove the finest cars on the road. He ate at the finest restaurants. He had the finest clothes and lived in a great house. But now, things definitely were changing in his life. With his daughter just starting college and his son soon to follow, Walter was concerned about their future.

I won’t drag this on much more, but just say that three months later, Walter was dead. He soon learned the cancer was in his lungs too and nothing could be done. I saw him for the last time about a week before he died. It was about an hour drive to his house and I wondered what I would say to him and his wife. He didn’t want me to come because of the way he looked. I was startled to see his face and neck, which were bloated from the medications he was taking. He literally looked like Javva The Hutt in Star Wars. I talked, he wrote notes, we hugged and we cried.

I think of Walter often and am really choked-up as I write this. You see, he died when he was only forty-nine years old.

I’ve told Walter’s story to many smokers over the years, hoping it would make them think about how smoking can change their life for the worst. As we all know, it is not just the smoker who pays the ultimate penalty, but their family too.

I hope you get the point here. Smoking is bad and will kill you.

Good lungs vs Smokers lungs.

EqualFineHaddock

Life Lessons From Aristotle

Aristotle

  • “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
  • “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”
  • “Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.”
  • “Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work.”
  • “It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.”
  • “To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.”
  • “Excellence is never an accident. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives – choice, not chance, determines your destiny.”
  • “The wise man does not expose himself needlessly to danger, since there are few things for which he cares sufficiently; but he is willing, in great crises, to give even his life – knowing that under certain conditions it is not worthwhile to live.”
  • “There is no great genius without a mixture of madness.”
  • “The young are permanently in a state resembling intoxication.”
  • “We become just by performing just action, temperate by performing temperate actions, brave by performing brave action.”
  • “The worst form of inequality is to try to make unequal things equal.”
  • “Those that know, do. Those that understand, teach.”
  • “To run away from trouble is a form of cowardice and, while it is true that the suicide braves death, he does it not for some noble object but to escape some ill.”
  • “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
  • “We must no more ask whether the soul and body are one than ask whether the wax and the figure impressed on it are one.”
  • “We praise a man who feels angry on the right grounds and against the right persons and also in the right manner at the right moment and for the right length of time.”
  • “You will never do anything in this world without courage. It is the greatest quality of the mind next to honor.”
  • “Youth is easily deceived because it is quick to hope.”
  • “What it lies in our power to do, it lies in our power not to do.”
  • “Whosoever is delighted in solitude is either a wild beast or a god.”
  • “Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods.”