Shame is Good – Proud is Better

I came across some therapists’ thoughts a while back about shame.

Mostly, I think he is full of crap. He states that “When we feel shame, it’s about who we are and that shame comes from being taught that we are worthless.”

I believe a good dose of shame now and then builds character. We should be ashamed when we do something bad. When I was a kid if one of my parents said they were ashamed of me, I understood it was for something I did, not who I was. If you are raised properly and know the difference between right and wrong, you should be ashamed of something you do that is bad. The key is to learn from it and not do it again.

Of course, praise is even more powerful, when earned. When you tell a child you are proud of them for some accomplishment, they will strive to please you by doing more things to get praise.

Lots of “Proud” along with a little “Shame” now and then is a good thing.

10 Quotes To Think About

  1. If an egg is broken by an outside force, life ends. If broken by an inside force, life begins. Great things always begin from the inside.”
    Jim Kwi
  2. The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.”
    Stephen Furtick
  3. The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it but that it is too low and we reach it.”
    Michelangelo
  4. Too many people buy things they don’t need with money they don’t have to impress people they don’t like.”
    Will Rogers
  5. No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.”
    Tony Robbins
  6. Have I not destroyed my enemy when I have made him into my friend?”
    Abraham Lincoln
  7. Never interfere with your enemy when he is making a mistake.”
    Napoleon Bonaparte
  8. Happiness is not determined by what’s happening around you, but rather what’s happening inside you. Most people depend on others to gain happiness, but the truth is, it always comes from within.”
    Adrian Corday
  9. Sometimes I think we’re alone in the universe, and sometimes I think we’re not. In either case, the idea is quite staggering.”
    Arthur C. Clarke
  10. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
    Maya Angelou

44 Profound Life Lessons

  1. “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why we call it the present.” – Oogway
  2. “We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.” – Oscar Wilde
  3. “If somebody is better than you at something, chances are they’ve failed at it more times than you have.”-Unknown
  4. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” –Eleanor Roosevelt
  5. “Speak the truth, even if your voice shakes”-Unknown
  6. “A lion doesn’t concern himself with the opinions of the sheep” – Tywin Lannister
  7. “Easy Choices, Hard Life. Hard Choices, Easy Life.” – Jerzy Gregorek
  8. “Everybody has a plan until they get punched in the mouth.” – Mike Tyson.
  9. “No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” ― Socrates
  10. “Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.” -Jargon File
  11. “Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.”-Albert Einstein
  12. “Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success” – Albert Schweitzer
  13. “The irony of the Information Age is that it has given new respectability to uninformed opinion.” John Lawton
  14. “Whenever I’m about to do something, I think, ‘Would an idiot do that?’ And if they would, I do not do that thing.” – Dwight Schrute
  15. “You do not stop playing because you grow old, you grow old because you stop playing.” –George Bernard Shaw
  16. ″Ignorance is bliss, my friend. Don’t burden yourself with the secrets of scary people.”-Unknown
  17. “Be kind everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”-Unknown
  18. “The fight isn’t over until you win it” –YaBoi
  19. “Don’t get caught in the captivity of negativity.”- T-Bag
  20. “You can’t change the past, but you can change the future.”-Unknown
  21. Work in your day off as you never work in your day normal, you might be surprise.”-Ernst Cenege
  22. “Here is a rule to remember in future, when anything tempts you to feel bitter: not “This is misfortune,” but “To bear this worthily is good fortune.”-Marcus Aurelius
  23. “Everybody can be great…because anybody can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to serve. You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
  24. “Everyone wants happiness. No one wants pain. But you can’t have a rainbow, without a little rain.”-Unknown
  25. “To be able, at any moment, sacrifice who you are, for what you will become.” Eric Thomas
  26. “A wise man knows he knows nothing at all”-Unknown
  27. “He who fights with monsters should be careful lest he thereby become a monster. And if thou gaze long into an abyss, the abyss will also gaze into thee.”- Nietzsche
  28. “Be great in act, as you have been in thought.”-Shakespeare
  29. “Be careful what you ask for. You might get it.”-Unknown
  30. “Sometimes by losing a battle, you find out how to win the war.”-Unknown
  31. “We accept the love we think we deserve” – Perks of Being a Wallflower.
  32. “Purpose of life is to find your gift. The meaning of life is to give it away.”-Unknown
  33. “Be good, get good, or give up.” – House
  34. “I am the master of my fate, i am the captain of my soul” – William Ernest Henley.
  35. “Nothing worth having comes easily” – Dr. Kelso
  36. “You never fail until you stop trying.” – Albert Einstein
  37. “One mind is enough for a thousand hands“ – Goethe
  38. “If you want to win the lottery you’ve got to make money to get a ticket.” – Nightcrawler
  39. “I am a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.” –Thomas Jefferson
  40. “Every day may not be good, but there’s something good in every day” –Alice Morse Earle
  41. “And this was no disciplined march; it was a stampede, without order and without a goal, six million people, unarmed and improvisioned, driving headlong. It was the beginning of the rout of civilization, of the massacre of mankind.”-H.G.Wells, The War of the Worlds
  42. “If you want to travel fast, go alone. If you want to travel far, go together.”-Unknown
  43. “Anywhere can be paradise as long as you have the will to live. After all, you are alive, so you will always have the chance to be happy. As long as the Sun, the Moon, and the Earth exist, everything will be all right.” – Neon Genesis Evangelion
  44. ″Everyone wants to save the world; no one wants to help Mom do the dishes.” —PJ O’Rourke